Pain
The Helpful Enemy
By Sharon R.
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Aristotle said, “We cannot learn without pain.”
When I reflect upon this as a submissive female, I agree. Generally, it's accepted that most of the important lessons in life must be learned “the hard way,” which almost always involves some sort of pain.
For the female, pain plays a more significant role. Pain is at the threshold of many of the milestones in her life. When her virginity is lost, it is usually accompanied by pain. Her monthly cycle is usually less than comfortable, and bearing children can be extremely painful. Sometimes even intercourse can be, too, or simply wearing those new high heels for nothing other than effect. Pain is an intricate part of what defines a woman and is an inevitable part her existence, but it is also, as Aristotle concluded, an excellent teacher. It's a consequence that sears the senses and brings a girl's whole consciousness to understanding. As females and as slaves, it is crucial to our training that we know pain and even more importantly, that we know we deserve pain.
We deserve pain, not only because we are flawed and often in need of correction, but also because it simply is the most efficient and thorough method of penetrating down to the very core, and reaching the mind, emotions, and body, all in one blow. Pain speaks much louder than words...How many words would it take to express what a slap to the face can say all on its own? In order for us to be truly broken and perfectly obedient, we must know the consequences of disobedience are real.
Considering this, a slave should be trained and communicated with in a similar way as a child. A parent doesn't bother with giving a child a detailed explanation for why he should or should not do something, the parent simply gives the rule and if the rule is broken, the child is punished. The idea is not to convince the child that the rule is right, instead, the objective is to establish authority. Slaves shouldn't be treated any differently. In order for a Master to truly establish himself as his slave's authority, it's necessary for her to understand that his word is law and there is no room for questioning it; she must simply obey and if she does not, the end result will be pain—and a lot of it.
Suffering pain is humbling and builds trust between a Master and his slave. A girl who knows she'll receive a beating and carry visible evidence of it afterwards is not a girl who will be too proud. Pain reminds us of our vulnerability and weakness. It's a literal expression of our place and helps to remind us of our status as slaves. We live in a culture that elevates women, and from the time we are young, we're bombarded with messages that we should be proud and defiant. Society would have us believe that we are not equal to men, but superior. Even though the concept of submission stands in stark contrast to that of modern feminism, the “I am woman, hear me roar” mentality has still found it's way into the hearts and minds of submissive females. Thus, we see a strain of “submissive” females trying to reconcile being slaves and being “powerful” women. How many times have we seen the proclamations, “submission is a gift” and “submission makes you strong?” We've come so far from understanding what it means to be a slave, but suffering real pain brings us back to that literal place of humility. In order for trust between a Male and his female to be complete, a girl must know her slavery is real and not just a game. Pain is one of the most sobering and real sensations a person can feel. When a Master uses pain to guide his slave, he gives her something tangible as a guide; she knows then that she can put her full trust in him because he doesn't just make empty threats or play kinky bedroom games. His dominance is real and complete and she is free to submit fully, knowing she will pay a price for disobedience.
A female who knows pain is a content and happy female. She is pleasing to her Master, she is gracious and kind to those around her, and she steers away from pride and jealousy. She is focused on and committed to the happiness of her Keeper. She is an ideal female.
We are marked for pain by virtue of our sex, sisters. We should accept this and hope for a Master who is wise enough to know we need it when we fail. We should seek out a Master who can mold us into the perfect servants we have the potential to be, and if that needs physical pain, so be it. Believing that our place is at our Masters' feet, we should embrace pain and remember that anything worth believing in is worth suffering for.
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